I wish everyone in the world could look at each others points of view.

So I realized that my blog posts lately have been very well... Out spoken... Rude... somewhat one sided. It is rather hard to write down what the other person's point of view would have been, because honestly when crazy people drive 50 mph thru your neighborhood you usually don't confront them... When people call the cops on you for "abusing" your dogs, you usually don't call them up and say hey next time verify info first you inconsiderate person. Or when confronted VIA e-mail you should probably do more than nothing, which in my case is what we did because honestly the email was so far fetched what else could be said to the craziness of it...

Well yesterday I posted what I thought would surely be my "chart topper" of crappy weeks... I was wrong.

Will call this one..... I wish you could for one second look at a different point of view and try with some small amount of non-male shovenistic point of view respect me.

So it begins months ago at an event... Brandon and I show up for the dinner, there is no tables and no chairs. At first we decided it wasn't a big deal we had time. When we started to call around Blanding we found out that the Churches no longer lint them out. When we called the person in charge and told him what was going on. He replied that he wasn't going to worry about it and he'd show up at the scheduled time. Panic mode has now set in Brandon decides to go back to Monticello to get the tables and chairs from the Lions Club. I stay to redirect people, some of them nice, some of them mad. No where at no time did the person in charge show up. By then of course I'm mad, pissed actually. About 20 minutes after the actually event started and the tables and chairs had been set up by us and a few nice people. The person in charge shows up. By now I'm infuriated with his lack of respect to show up when there was a big problem. I ask him if he'll come talk to me. He said he didn't need to, that there's nothing to say... Okay my point of view... He's now being rude to me in front of people, no respect for the event because he was in charge of the set up, and on top of it I'm not important enough to take a few minutes of his time and step out so we could solve it. Needless to say I let him have it in front of 20 people or so. So I see that this is embarrassing for both of us, but what do you do with someone that won't listen to you? This wasn't the first time, I would come up with an idea for the event and my father would have to repeat it before he'd consider the idea. It just wasn't good enough coming from me apparently.

So will call last night a black Thursday. We had our first meeting, everything seemed fine then right at the end in front of new members he brings it up and starts telling people that he wont be embarrassed again. You can count him out this year and no more meetings at his place. He continues on and finally I decide enough and speak up for my self, I apologized I tried to explain then defend and finally he turns it on me and says I was embarrassing him again because I brought it up. I thought for sure with my temper and out spoken nature I would surely have gotten up and slapped the bastard. Instead I sat reminded him I didn't bring it up. Finally people started to interrupt him tyring to calm him. I sat with as my dad calls it daggers in my eyes and stared at him.... He never could look at me, no respect not even after. Me I would have let the first incident slid after all that night I did apologize for getting so mad at him in front of everyone. However he wouldn't look at me then either, never has. I'm pretty sure he didn't even hear what I said, because he couldn't tell me why I was mad.

So I sat up last night wondering what it would be like to know other people's points of view, would it help defuse situations before they occurred? Knowing that you embarrassed someone would it matter as much if you could see just how much? I'm not really sure if it would or wouldn't make a difference. I would hope so. Because if I've learned anything from all this it is that apologizing obviously doesn't work no matter how many times you do it or who you do it in front of.... Seriously recognition is the first step, I've always been able to do this part. I see a small amount of other points of view, and I apologize when I'm in the wrong. However what do you do when other people won't? A hard head really is only good if you play sports.